I started out blogtober with a post on zhi or willpower. I focused mainly on yin zhi or the unconscious decisions that bring us to (or far away from) our life goals. When I wrote the post I thought, “Wouldn’t it be fun if I actually managed to do this thing?”
But, I don’t finish fun things easily.
My yin zhi has never lead me astray. But my yang zhi? That’s a whole different story.
You see, I am stubborn. If you’re being kind you’d call me “tenacious” or “determined” but it all amounts to the same thing: I push hard and I push long for the things I want. For important things like my clinic and my family, I can push through any mental resistance and laziness to get it done. But things that I do for fun? Or for my own self-care? That’s another story.
Parenting has always been a tricky subject for me because I see it as such a delicate balance of respecting my little person’s personhood and having enough discipline to teach her how to navigate the world. These five books are some of the best for helping me find that balance.
Feng shui is an ancient art that is intended to harmonize your relationship with your environment. It’s a beautiful, complicated art with many schools of thought and sometimes, it can be easy to get lost in the weeds. But there are some very simple, everyday things you can do to improve the feng shui of your home.
So you roll up your sleeves, ready to whip your home into shape. But kids don’t put their toys back. Dishes need to be done. You need to get work done. And, shockingly, you are the only one interested in decluttering.
Eventually days turn into weeks. Maybe you’re discouraged because your one perfect room makes the rest of the house look like a pit. Maybe the one category at a time method isn’t noticeable because you just cleaned around other clutter.
Eventually, as you tend to life, your decluttering project falls to the wayside because you prioritized other things and instead of a clean, Pinterest-perfect home you are left with guilt and a sense of failure.
The biggest hurdle of facing stress paralysis is admitting that you’re in the depth of it. Once that is done you can start making your way out of it, like with quicksand.
Here are fifteen ways to break out of stress paralysis, based on the Five Element theory.
Nothing says fall to me more than a cup of hot apple cider and a stack of books on my side table.
Some of you know this, many of you don’t: this isn’t my first blog. It’s my third! The last two faded into obscurity but the very first one was called ‘Shelfhelpless’ because I have an eternal love of self-help books.
So for this second blogtober post, I’d like to share six of my favorite shelfhelp books in the hopes that you can find the same sort of joy in them that I have.(more…)